I have had many things said to me that have made me feel inferior and put my self-esteem lower than it should be. There are times like today when it seems that I have an eye opener to important things in life and about myself that should not let me take little things to heart.
People put others down to lift themselves up, everyone including me is guilty of this. 
It is very discouraging that people feel that they have to do this in order to feel good about themselves. 
I can honestly say that when I have seen something I disliked about a person I also look for something that is good so I do not get agitated by them as easily. 
It is painful when someone cuts you down and makes you feel insecure. It is quiet easy to make someones self confidence fade.
It boosts our own self confidence when we can find the good in people. It helps us to realize the good in ourselves.

"The French have a great saying that translated means, “spirit of the stairs”. It’s all those comments and comebacks you think of later that you wished you’d said to the person at the time. But, really, it’s no use sinking to that person’s level. That’s what they want. They want to get a reaction out of you, they want you to feel bad and their intent quite likely was to hurt you. So, by responding with similar put downs against them really only plays into their plan and ends up hurting yourself. You also don’t want to end up with regrets later over what you said in anger."   Read more: http://www.life-with-confidence.com/people-who-put-you-down.html#ixzz1aFjqONTt

I am a very sensitive person. Loved ones and friends know this about me. I take to much to heart, but mainly from people I care about. It hurts to have something said about you that makes you put yourself down or think that you are lower than another person or that you have to change. I have found the good in myself. I still take things to heart often, put myself down at times, but am trying to look at things in another perspective, like myself and think of the reasons why some people say the things that they say.
As we all know NOBODY IS PERFECT. Everyone has their flaws. Just be the best you can be for yourself.